During the difficult times that I was trying to lose weight, being able to wear beautiful clothes was at the forefront of everything I fantasized about. (A close second was about attracting the perfect boyfriend, WHILST wearing beautiful clothes!).  Of course, I also dreamed of running marathons, being the envy of other women at parties, being admired by strangers and of course making all of my exes jealous as hell!!  Then there was the fact that I was sick of the pitiful looks I got when I did attend social gatherings either looking like a sack of potatoes in an item that I’d prized myself into or the tent that my body was covered in that did a terrible job of camouflaging the sad state of my body.  On occasions, the judgement of others was so intense that I wanted to crawl under a stone, never to return to my former existence.  BUT you see clothes were at the very centre of my universe despite all of the other things that I hoped and yearned so desperately for.  I truly believed that if I could just wear whatever the heck I liked, that every single other area of my life would also fall into place as if by some magical connection contained in fairy dust.

They were dark times indeed when I had to choose what to wear based solely on whether something would a) fit me and b) would make me as invisible as possible.

The turning point was when I first began to touch upon the 4 Crazy Steps to Weight Loss Success and I began to see not only a dramatic change to my figure but also the fact that my weight stopped yo-yoing and remained either on a steady downward slide or stable.  I can tell you that the first time I felt slim from not having dieted was the first time that I can honestly remember a true and wonderful excitement that entered my very being.  I could almost smell the scent of the wonderful fabrics and the feel of the wonderfully silky dresses that I longed to wear.  I even went so far as imagining what I would look like as I shimmied my way into parties and other social and family gatherings. 

When the day finally came that I felt confident enough to go shopping for clothes (I had saved for this day and could afford to buy a few outfits for an upcoming wedding and birthday party) I literally jumped for joy.  I would be the belle of the ball I had promised myself.  Instead of the quick trip to the local high street where I would usually purchase almost identical outfits, I took a trip to a massive shopping centre crammed full of clothes shops that, up until that moment, I could only walk by and envy the people who could shop there.  I entered the shops of my dreams and tried on dress after dress, skirt after skirt, top after top until I could do it no more from sheer exhaustion.

The conclusions I reached that day and fully expecting were:

1. The feeling when you slip on a dress in a size you dreamed to be is so wonderful that it immediately lifts your self-esteem to sky high levels.
2. Catching sight of your image adorning a beautiful garment instantly makes you feel super confident and assured.
3. Your comfort zone expands and the urge to try new experiences multiplies tenfold.

The story doesn’t end there however because there were also conclusions that I reached that were not at all what I was expecting:

1. Being slim does not mean everything will suit me.  Sadly, I found that certain styles are for a different body shape to mine and that being slim did nothing for certain items that I yearned to wear because, quite simply, they did not suit me.
2. Being able to wear wonderful clothes did not instantly mean that I would automatically be successful at job interviews.
3. Wearing a size 8 did not guarantee that I always got a date with the object of my desire.
4. The new slim me still got rejected for a new loan.

The point then of writing this blog and the moral of the story is that being slim is just a small part of having a successful and fulfilling life.  I don’t know about you but I always thought that when I was slim, everything would simply and effortlessly fall into place.  Of course, when you really think about it, it was not and could not be true EVER. 

That’s why dieting should not be your main focus and should therefore be replaced with well-being.  When you make this subtle but difficult shift, you will truly begin to attract and manifest things that will improve your whole life and not just your figure.

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Written by Sherry Taylor

Author of The Anti-Diet Lifestyle